January of this year was a changing point for me. I am now 61. I don't feel 61, nor do I act 61, in my own humble opinion :) I keep telling myself that I matter. I keep telling myself that I'm worth hearing from, worth listening to. I seem to be the only one saying that. LOL But..... I'm going to write anyway. What have I got to lose? Nothing, except words from my head.
Somewhere I read that you should do three things a day. Write something. Take at least one photo and do one drawing. I'm doing pretty good with the writing and photos...but the drawing hasn't really clicked in for me. Gave up the art thing 5 years ago and it hasn't been given back to me. Have a little bit of a desire to paint...but the experience I had leaves a very sad and bitter taste in my mouth. (see short explanation in later paragraph)
2014 saw a change in my work situation. Quit one job and got offered four more. Took two of them. Was offered a job at Burgundy Beef in Fort Worth and had agreed to take that job when Whole Foods offered me a position as a part-time cashier. I took that one. Larger company and better working environment...I thought. :) Willowbend Health Care offered me a job as a receptionist and I worked for them for three days...I think...and then decided that it wasn't for me. The drive to north Plano was an hour and 15 minutes with traffic and almost an hour without traffic. Geez louise...that was just too much. And at the time, the price of gas was higher and it just wasn't worth my while to continue. Quit that job. In November of 2014 I was hired by J. Jill as a sales associate. Never worked retail sales like that. They are opening two new stores in our area. One in Southlake and the other in Arlington in the Highlands. That is the store I will be at. Our grand opening is January 29. I have been training in the Northpark store for the last 2+ months. I love the girls in the Northpark store and will miss not working with them.
Whole Foods. I am a cashier. That...my friends (and whoever else is reading) is a crazy, predicable, yet unpredictable job. Take last night for instance. A lady came through my line...and I can usually spot the ones that are "off" right away. She proceeded to tell me that she asked a produce team member to cut an apples for her to taste. It was a new type of apple she had never seen and she wanted to taste it. That's ok. That's what we do at Whole Foods. We have a program that allows people to try new items, or old items they haven't tried, "on us!". We have a code at the register that allows that type of thing. I said to her, "Well, I won't charge you for that." And she answered, "I KNOW you won't." Seemed odd...but most people are odd. Then she asked for change for $100 bill. We really aren't supposed to do that, but I did it anyway. In the process of giving her the change from her first transaction, I lost count of the money for the $100. So I took the money from her that I had given her and proceeded to count it to make sure that she had the correct amount of money for her $100, which meant that I wouldn't be short or over in my till. She looked at me when I handed her the money and said, "Did you know that you're aggressive. Both physically and verbally." I was stunned. Literally stunned. I didn't know how to respond. I simply said, "Well, I know I have a strong personality, and I did have six children, so I have learned not to be a doormat...but no one has ever said anything like that to me." I asked her if that was offensive and she said it was, sorta. Then she proceeded to tell me that she's pretty blunt and down to earth herself. . . . ya think? Anyway...I am writing this down here to get it on my record of what I said and what she said. Why do people think they can just say anything that comes to their mind....? I had never met this woman before. Never laid eyes on her and she presumes to KNOW me? I don't think so.
I will admit here that this has bothered me. I told my supervisor what the woman said and she was dumbfounded as well. She said, "Even you think something like that you don't say it."
Now....this begs the question...AM I AGGRESSIVE? perhaps. AM I ABUSIVE? perhaps. I don't know. Are we ever really honest with ourselves to the point of brutality? I think not. We are all narcissists at heart. Some work harder to hide it...others don't care and let it show. I'd rather be alone in my solitude than have to hang around people that are overly impressed with themselves. People who think what they have to say is just incredibly interesting. Can't stand to be around those people. Friendship/aquaintenanceship should be a give and take. You are not more important than me and I am not more important than you and your shit stinks just like mine. There.....
Spent most of my day cooking. Homemade macaroni and cheese....defrosted a meatloaf, made Cocada de Forno (baked coconut tarts) home made fudge with nuts, and got cauliflower ready to be roasted. Lunch consisted of toasted cheese sandwiches, roasted red pepper soup with avocado, parmesan cheese, basil and croutons, with a salad of spinach, broccoli, cauliflower, parmesan cheese and ranch dressing with olive oil as well.
Stomach has been acting up again. Not sure of the reason...EXCEPT...I have been eating more and more regularly. Two meals a day is about all my stomach can handle. I've been eating more than that lately and it's been uncomfortable. So I'm not fixing the large dinner tonight that I had planned (see above paragraph). I will fix it tomorrow for a late lunch before Robin and I both head to work in the afternoon.
Have determined to get out of my debt. I have run up the balances on my American Express, Old Navy, Kohl's and J. Jill. I paid off Steinmart, Talbots, and the little bit that I had charged on the T.J. Maxx card I opened when I bought the black and tan t-shirt and the light blue sweater....oh and the small bathroom mirror. The Steinmart bill was for skincare at Merle Norman....and I'm not sure that it's helping me all that much, to be honest. Went there because a dear friend swears by their products so I thought I would give them a try. hmm...I don't know why my face isn't cooperating. Maybe it's just that working at the pharmacy for those 3 1/2 years did a big number on my system and it's not going to recover that quickly. It's been nearly a year since both of us quit that job...and were we ever relieved to do so. What a disaster that place way. Truly.
I took photos yesterday of my house. Not going to post them here. They were yesterday. But today...I took photos of my birds. I will post one. Here it is.
This bird was given to me by a dear friend that I used to be connected to via an art business. I won't give the name. This dear lady was one of the only ones that remained in contact with me after I resigned (for the second time). If anyone has been involved with a group of women...you know how difficult it can be at times. Especially when everyone involved is head strong and wants their way. I knew the problem was more me than them (meaning it was me)....but I couldn't handle it anymore. Besides....I had instructions to quit. So I quit. End of story. But I do have a small sneaking desire to paint again. The thing is....it would have to be done anonymously...not sure how to do that. Maybe under another name.
Going to close for tonight. More tomorrow. I hope I can keep up the writing. My brother-in-law thinks I should write. I keep telling him I don't have anything to say......:)
ps...I want to cook my way through the book "My Little Paris Kitchen" the way Julie cooked her way through Julia Child's book. I think that would be fun. But not sure when I will do that.
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